when i started writing this post, i had something different and more structured in mind. however, i decided not to rewrite, as this is what normally happens when you meet me for coffee and we start chatting. i warn you, there will be some haphazard rambling of thoughts, so get up, go make yourself a cup of coffee and then keep reading.
i was out for dinner with a few friends the other night and i made a comment to the friend sitting next to me about things i don't like about myself. she immediately berated me and told me that it made her sad to think i had such a low opinion of myself. she also told me that what i hated about myself, she loved about me.
for example, if i was the kind of girl who suddenly started skipping dinners out with friends, or saying no to a cup of coffee or a glass of wine (what?!), to rather spend time in the gym, she would feel like she had lost the friend that she knows and loves.
it got me thinking about all my insecurities and whether i really wanted to change the things i don't like. how far would i go to change those things? are they very important or just something to complain about from time to time.
these little insecurities are all apart of who we are. it also has the ability to change the way we not just look at ourselves but how we make others feel.
it is easy to look at someone else's life and see everything that is perfect about them. how we wish we had their hair, or their metabolism, or maybe their wealth. sometimes we gossip because it makes us feel better about ourselves, or we make them feel guilty for having accomplished things we wish we had ourselves. wishing that we had the same opportunities they had and ignoring our own, easily dismissing our own as being not grande enough. compare it to a child that grew up without an education and now begging next to the road, yours seem pretty good, right?
so why not rather change the way we talk about ourselves and others. be happy for the friend who has an awesome job, even if you don't like yours. never allow yourself to 'hate' someone because they have something you don't have. start focusing on the positives and start becoming the person you would love to be friends with.
i was out for dinner with a few friends the other night and i made a comment to the friend sitting next to me about things i don't like about myself. she immediately berated me and told me that it made her sad to think i had such a low opinion of myself. she also told me that what i hated about myself, she loved about me.
for example, if i was the kind of girl who suddenly started skipping dinners out with friends, or saying no to a cup of coffee or a glass of wine (what?!), to rather spend time in the gym, she would feel like she had lost the friend that she knows and loves.
it got me thinking about all my insecurities and whether i really wanted to change the things i don't like. how far would i go to change those things? are they very important or just something to complain about from time to time.
these little insecurities are all apart of who we are. it also has the ability to change the way we not just look at ourselves but how we make others feel.
it is easy to look at someone else's life and see everything that is perfect about them. how we wish we had their hair, or their metabolism, or maybe their wealth. sometimes we gossip because it makes us feel better about ourselves, or we make them feel guilty for having accomplished things we wish we had ourselves. wishing that we had the same opportunities they had and ignoring our own, easily dismissing our own as being not grande enough. compare it to a child that grew up without an education and now begging next to the road, yours seem pretty good, right?
so why not rather change the way we talk about ourselves and others. be happy for the friend who has an awesome job, even if you don't like yours. never allow yourself to 'hate' someone because they have something you don't have. start focusing on the positives and start becoming the person you would love to be friends with.
"gain the confidence to star in your own life"
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